维护异地恋的十大方法

24 EN编者按 ：异地恋不容易，要求双方彼此信任，承担责任，有原则，懂沟通。研究表明大多数出于异地恋的人最终都分手了。异地恋是艰苦的战斗，但是是可以维护好的，也有很多人最终结束了长期的两地分离而最终喜结连理。下面给出10条建议，帮助诸位获得永久的爱情。

24 EN Editor"s Note: Being in a long distance relationship isn"t easy. It requires very strong trust, commitment, guidelines, and communication. Studies show that a majority of people involved in long distance relationships eventually break up.It"s an uphill battle, but it is possible, and many people do eventually become happily married as a result of being in a long distance relationship. The following 10 long distance relationship tips will go a long way to help you achieve a lasting love...   更多信息请访问：http://www.24en.com/

Being in a long distance relationship isn"t easy. It requires very strong trust, commitment, guidelines, and communication. Studies show that a majority of people involved in long distance relationships eventually break up. That"s why you see so many "experts" proclaiming that long distance relationships are a bad idea and don"t work. Yet if you learn to master communication and set the parameters of your relationship, it can work. It"s an uphill battle, but it is possible, and many people do eventually become happily married as a result of being in a long distance relationship.

A long distance relationship will be difficult and requires a strong commitment between you and your partner. The following 10 long distance relationship tips will go a long way to help you achieve a lasting love. Here they are:

1) Establish the relationship rules and parameters. 给你们的关系定下一些原则和规定

In a study of long distance relationships, Dr. Greg Guldner found that 70% of couples in a long distance relationship who did not set rules, or deal with changes, ended up breaking up within six months. This means that it is vital that you and your partner set rules and parameters to guide your long distance relationship. This includes an agreement that you will not date others, that you will communicate daily, and that you"ll see each other at least once every 2-3 months in person.

2) Communicate Every Single Day 每天都交流交流

Part of a successful long distance relationship is being able to emulate patterns found in regular relationships. One of these patterns is daily communication. The evolution of the Internet is godsend for people who are in long distance relationships. Not only can you communicate via email and instant messaging for free, but you can also talk to each other through free services like Skype. And that means no more $500 a month phone bills!

3) Express Your Feelings 把你的感情表达出来

Learning to express your feelings to your long distance partner in email, IM, and on the phone is important for the growth and stability of your relationship. One of the ways it increases your relationship stability is by providing "reassurance" to the other person about your commitment to him/her. When you express your feelings, you are letting your partner know that you are committed to making the relationship work.

4) Send Care Packages 千里寄相思

Every once in awhile prepare and send your long distance relationship partner a "care package". Here are several things you might consider putting in the package (not all at once, of course; pace yourself and your gifts):

                    Books               Phone Card        Hugs 
                    Music                Video Message   Kisses 
                    Puzzle                Sweets               Real Rose 
                    Card                 Stuffed Animal    "Preserved" Rose 
                    Holiday Items    Bottled Message Chocolate Rose 
                    Pressed Flower Pictures of You   Engraved Rose 
                    Gift Card           Jewelry              "Key" to Your Heart 
                    Bubble Bath       Movie Ticket      Personalized Poem

The more personalized you can make the gifts, the bigger impact it will have when received. For example, when send some pictures of you, hold a sign in one of the pictures that says "I love you, ____" (of course yours will have a name in it, not a blank line). When sending a book, make sure the book is on something your partner is passionate about and write him/her a little note on the inside cover. Do this every time you send a book. If you send music, write something specific about a song or two that makes you think of him/her. Go to the M&Ms Website and order personalized M&Ms. Even puzzles can be customized as many places now sell make your own puzzle kits. Call up a spa in his/her area and buy a certificate that the spa will mail you then you will mail to your partner!

The more personalized and creative you can be, the more impressed your partner will be at your thoughtfulness.